Move on

                    Life is short, and we don't have forever to wait for someone or to play the blame game. If you know you give your all in the relationship, and that person did nothing but walk all over you, forget them and move on. While you're sitting there crying, and losing your hair and sanity over this person, they are out living their life. Look at it this way, should you pay for something they did? HELL NO!!  Before they entered your life, what did you love to do? Did you write poems, read books, dance or just hang out with friends? Whatever it was, try going back to what used to make you happy, and use this break up as lesson and never let someone bring you to your keens again.    

The long letter of apologies..Get yours yet??

The infamous 12 page apology letter always comes when you are least expecting it. The first lines may go as follows. "I know I am the lat person you want to hear from at this point in your life but"... And then you can pretty much fill the rest in yourself with out reading the books they will send. Most of us will get a kick out of it if you are normal, but the biggest thing is will we fall for the okie doke? You then start asking yourself questions like, " should i call him/her, or Is he/she serious or the big one "what is he/she trying to pull? My advice is, JUST GO WITH THE FLOW. Don't answer the letters, just put them away until you want to skim over them again or like I often do, trash them, believe me you will get more as long as you don't respond. It's better that way, especially if you want to know if these apologies are sincere.So keep that waste basket near the door, they will be pouring sooner or later...

The Depression Stage..Been there Yet??

Just when you think you've got the broken heart thing licked, low and behold here comes Mr. Depression. That slithering snake that appears as soon as you think it is all over with. I know, The "I am never dating again", conversation that you have with yourself. Believe me it is as bad as it sounds but, you get over that as well. Three steps to beatig the love hangover called depression.#1.Find something that you really loved to do before you met that person and really get into it again, lol as long as it is legal and not life threatening, like a hobby {poetry, sewing, painting}, After you have mastered your hobby it's on to step #2. Start going out with old friends, not the ones you both had but the ones you always kept in touch with or meet new ones and even travel and see new sights, And finally #3/ pamper yourself, change something about yourself to your satisfaction, like your hair style or color, maybe a different outfit from time to time and get into who you are. And EURIKA! You beat the depression. I know it works, it worked for me and Honey I thought there was no hope... Try it, I am sure you'll love how you feel.

Ex- wife/Husband's phone call !! should we pick it up??

When the New wife/hubby calls you "the EX wife/husband", after three years looking for her husband/ his wife.LMBAO..Why in the hell would you be that insecure.Ladies and gents listen up. If you have to call the ex to find him/her you shouldn't have married him/her in the first place...Stop being so insecure..WE don't want them back..If they cheated on the EX to be with you then you only get what you paid for...So if they asks you where he/she is my advice would be to tell them that he's/she's in the shower and will call you later.Even if they are not there.. Give them a dose of thier own medicine.

Seeing Him or Her with The new mate...

It is a sure thing that you will see Him/Her with the so-called new love, but we all dread that feeling that we think we may get, Right? Well, if it happends and nine times out of ten "It Will", Just don't panic or show emotions..Good or bad ones..He/she probably will feel strange in that situation as well. The bright side is this, It will put all of your little questions to yourself at ease..You Know, The questions like , "How will I feel to see them together, is he or she better looking then I am"? You know the basic off the wall things that run through our minds like a race car. Once this happends I bet it will be a huge weight lifted from your head. And you will probably laugh about it later, believe me, The new love is never as we imagine them to be..

The "ex "syndrome

Tired of crying over the so called "ex" or how you feel he did you wrong? Listen up, I am one who has triumphed over many cloud of "the clown" syndrome..let it all out and follow me, you can't lose..Lol, you may lose that unwanted baggage but not your mind. Ladies, anything you need to know just "ask me"...Oh by the way ladies, there is really a thing called the team of "ME".. It is not just a saying from a movie.It all starts with who you are and what you deserve as a woman. Well, i know you get my drift by now..I am listening....Let's get it together and make it better, way better.